Infidelity counseling in Charlotte, NC

What this is

Infidelity does a particular kind of damage. It is not only the event; it is the retrospective doubt it casts over everything that came before, and the loss of a version of your life you believed you were living. People describe feeling foolish as often as they describe feeling angry.

This work is a place to put that down and look at it, with someone who has sat with it many times before and is not shocked by any of it.

How it tends to go

Early sessions are usually about stabilising things — establishing what can be asked and answered, and containing the parts of the conversation that are re-injuring rather than informing. Then, if both people want to continue, the work turns to what happened, what it meant, and what either of you wants now.

That can involve sessions as a couple, sessions individually, or both. Laura will be explicit about how she handles information shared in individual sessions before any are arranged.

Not every couple stays together

Some couples rebuild, and some of them describe the relationship afterwards as more honest than it was. Others decide to separate. Both are legitimate outcomes of this work, and Laura is not steering toward either.

Anyone who promises you that counseling will save your relationship, or that it can guarantee this will never happen again, is telling you something they cannot know.

Who this is for

People in heterosexual, monogamous, LGBTQ+ and openly negotiated relationships. What counts as a betrayal is defined by the agreement the two of you had, not by an assumption about what your relationship should look like.

You do not need your partner’s participation to start. A good deal of this work is done by one person.